As the New Year approaches, we tend to think about what we want to do with the next year, what we’d like to accomplish, and what we’d like to change. Two years ago, I was anticipating the release of my first book in the spring and trying to navigate the promotional waters. Then I found out I was pregnant.
A surprise pregnancy and nothing went as I expected. My first pregnancy was twins, so I hoped that the fatigue would be lighter. Instead it was worse. The morning sickness was worse. The back pain was worse. I was miserable. And the goals that I wished to accomplish were left undone.
I had to evaluate how I was going to do what I wanted with the caveat of remaining sane. It proved to be a tall order. I resigned from a part-time job and a board position. I plugged away half-heartedly on the manuscript I hoped to finish. The goals unrealized added to my misery.
It’s hard to step back from our goals and desires and say ‘this one isn’t possible right now.’ And I struggled with it. I wanted to pull it all together and finish that manuscript. Before my daughter was born, I finished a draft of the manuscript, a draft I planned to be my final one. After she was born I would give it one last read through and send it out.
Once my energy returned, I picked up the manuscript for that last read. Oh boy. It was bad. I shouldn’t have tried so hard to finish it. I should have allowed myself the rest and the time to complete the story.
It’s important to set goals and strive to keep them. Completing them keeps us motivated and moving ahead. We also need to recognize when a goal we have set is no longer realistic and must be set aside for a time.
So let’s set those New Years’ resolutions and make them great. And as time goes by, don’t be afraid to boost them higher and drop them lower, but keep working toward them.
What are your goals for the next year?